
TEEN DATING VIOLENCE
The Statistics:
- Nearly 1.5 million high school students nationwide experience physical abuse from a dating partner in a single year.
- One in three adolescents in the U.S. is a victim of physical, sexual, emotional or verbal abuse from a dating partner, a figure that far exceeds rates of other types of youth violence.
- One in 10 high school students has been purposefully hit, slapped or physically hurt by a boyfriend or girlfriend.
- Nearly half (43%) of dating college women report experiencing violent and abusive dating behaviors.
Definitions:
Who is involved?
- Abuser
- Victim
- Bystander (Witness)
What is teen dating violence?
- One person repeatedly threatens to or actually acts in a way that verbally, physically, emotionally or sexually injures their partner;
- The hurtful behavior is done more than once or repeatedly; and
- One person is afraid of and intimidated by the other.
Where does teen dating violence happen?
- In-person, face-to-face
- Online or using technology
What are the warning signs that someone might be in an abusive relationship?
- Decrease in self-esteem since entering the relationship.
- The interests, values and desires of her/his partner dominate the relationship.
- Her/his partner is using name calling, threats, intimidation, insults, manipulation, physical or sexual abuse.
- Her/his partner feels entitled to be in control and always decides how things will be.
- S/he is afraid to break up; her/his partner will not let her/him leave.
- S/he no longer spends time with friends and only spends time with her/his partner.
- S/he receives constant text messages and/or phone calls from her/his partner.
How do I help someone who is in an abusive relationship?
- Take any form of abuse seriously
- Tell them they do not deserve the abuse
- Be a good listener
- Help them create a safety plan
- Give options NOT advice
- Let them make their own decisions
- Seek professional help or a trusted adult
How do I get out of an abusive relationship?
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Tell someone. Especially If you are being physically or sexually abused and do not feel safe, it is important to tell someone immediately.
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Document or journal the abuse (e.g., save text messages, emails, notes, or voicemails that are abusive or threatening)
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Talk to a trusted adult.
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Work with adults and friends to make a safety plan.
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If you’ve decided to break-up, consider doing so in a public place or not breaking-up face-to-face (i.e., phone call, text message or email). Tell friends and family so they can support you.
Web Resources:
24-hour Hotlines:
- The Family Place Domestic Violence Hotline: 214.941.19991
- Love is Respect National Dating Abuse Helpline: 1.800.331.9474
- Teen CONTACT Help Line: 972.233.8336