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SEXUAL VIOLENCE

THE STATISTICS:

  • In the United States, 1 in 6 women and 1 in 33 men reported experiencing an attempted or completed rape at some time in their lives. 

  • Girls ages 16-19 are 4 times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault. 
  • 93% of juvenile sexual assault victims know their attacker. 34% of attackers were family members; 59% were acquaintances; only 7% of the perpetrators were strangers to the victim.

  • 14% of Texas high school females and 4% of Texas high school males reported being physically forced to have sexual intercourse when they did not want to.
  • More than half (60%) of acquaintance rapes on college campuses occur in casual or steady dating relationships.

  • 20%-25% of women in college reported experiencing an attempted or a completed rape. 

The Definitions:

Sexual Harassment is any behavior of a sexual nature that is unwanted, makes someone feel uncomfortable and occurs on a frequent basis. 

 

Sexual harassment comes in three forms:

  1. 1. Physical – grabbing, pushing, touching, groping, gesturing, etc.
  2. 2. Verbal – name-calling, rumors, jokes, unwanted phone calls,
  3.    sexual propositions
  4. 3. Written – love letters & electronic meddages, including emails
  5.    text messages, tweets & IM's

 

Flirting and Sexual harassment are NOT the same:

FLIRTING:

  • Is welcomed
  • Makes you feel flattered & attractive 
  • Can go both ways
  • You feel in control 

SEXUAL HARRASMENT:

  • Is not wanted or liked
  • Makes you feel put down or uncomfortable
  • Is one-sided
  • You feel powerless

Sexual Assault is any unwanted, non-consensual sexual contact against any individual by another using manipulation, pressure, tricks, coercion or physical force.

 

Victims of sexual assault are:

  • 3 times more likely to suffer from depression.
  • 6 times more likely to suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder.
  • 13 times more likely to abuse alcohol.
  • 26 times more likely to abuse drugs.
  • 4 times more likely to contemplate suicide.

What to Do:

3 Steps to Stop Sexual Harassment:

1. NO- Tell the harasser to stop. Name the behavior; be specific and straightforward.

2. GO- Get out of the situation.

3. Tell- Tell others about the harassment (e.g., friends, peers, someone of authority). Staying silent protects the harasser.

 

Safety Tips to Protect Yourself from Sexual Assault:

1. Beware of date rape drugs - NEVER leave beverages unattended.

2. Do not take beverages from anyone you do not know well and trust.

3. Be alert to the behavior of your friends and ask them to watch out for you.  Anyone appearing to be extremely drunk may be in danger. 

4. Do not drink alcohol.  Alcohol is the rapist’s #1 drug of choice. If you do choose to drink, be responsible. Have a designated driver or enough money for a cab.  Be wary of people who seem too eager to give you one drink after another.

5. Do not take illegal drugs.  Any form of a controlled substance can impair judgment and decrease motor skills.

6. Utilize the Buddy System.

7. Be assertive and say “NO!” when receiving unwanted sexual advances.  Don’t worry about being polite or hurting feelings.

8. Trust your instincts.  If you have a fear that something bad will happen, it probably will.  Intuition is comprised of unconscious observations, and it is designed to protect.

9. Think about possible red flags and warning signs.

Web Resources:

www.familyplacebeproject.org
www.taasa.org
www.dallasrapecrisis.org

24-hour Hotlines:

• Dallas Area Rape Crisis Hotline: 972.641.RAPE (7273)
• National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1.800.656.HOPE (4673)
• The Family Place 24-hour Domestic Violence Hotline: 214-941-1991
• Texas Youth Hotline: 1-888-210-2278
• Teen CONTACT Help Line: 972-233-TEEN